In an effort to re-focus myself and my life, I have been asking myself the above question: What if things were different? ... the answers are a relevation to me, and provide a plan for making changes in my life.
In my case I decided to ask myself "What if I was single? - how would I live my life?
I hasten to add that I am NOT imagining yukky things happening to my lovely husband ... or the disappearance of my children.
I love them all but I know that the role I play as Mother and Wife is easy enough to hide behind at times ... I mean by raising children I am already "doing" something right?
No. I suspect that at times the busy-ness of these two roles, along with my work, leave me feeling little energy or inspiration for working out if the way I am living my life is how I really want it to be.
If I could wave a magic wand and change things, what would I change about my life now?
The extension of that question is the concept that if there are things I would change (waving a magic wand seems like a great, easy way to proceed don't you think?) then why don't I change them anyway?
With vulnerabililty, I share with you my list. I wrote it in full indulgence of my imagination ...
I would still raise my children
I would continue my education
I would diversify my income sources
I would travel more
I would see more movies
I would switch to a more ecological lifestyle (with coffee and chocolate always included)
I would live in the countryside and go walking all the time – a good sized town with mountains all around, or a smallish place near the beach/lake
I would have a garden and grow my own veges
I would ride a bike whenever I could
- I would swim each day
It's not an exhaustive list.
It's a 'first go' list. I wonder what I will add as time passes.
Above all, I found myself looking at the list and wondering exactly what it is that stops me from having the life I want right now - it's certainly not my married status I can tell you!!!
I wonder what question you would ask?
- What would I do if I wasn't scared?
- What would I do if I had the money to do it?
- What would I change if I could re-start my education?
- What would I do/change if I cared less what other people think?
Take a moment, a piece of paper and a pen ... and write down your question. Then, with courage, write down your answers.
... this is where you find your voice, what you really want ... this is where it begins.