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To dream or not to dream.

If you are going to accept the first roadblock that comes along then, no, you are not going to reach your dreams – and that is true whether you have money, education, help ... or not.

So what are your dreams? 

Not the ones you have in the wee hours of the morning ... the ones you had when you were younger, smaller, more innocent, less vulnerable to the limitations we place on ourselves as adults. 

In adult-land, some of us become convinced that having a dream is a waste to time. Perhaps over the years we have been worn down in our belief that dreams are important. Maybe we have come in contact with far too many other adults who have accepted the limits they see - financial, educational, physical, logistical, practical etc. They have come to believe that dreams are not worth having.

Yet there are many (thank goodness) examples of people who, in spite of apparently insurmountable limits on their lives, refuse to accept the roadblocks as permanent or real. They find their way, through sheer willingness, towards their dreams.

  • Single parents who through commitment and determination, put themselves through school and strive to put their kids through school too.
  • Parents who worked all hours of the day and night to earn enough to give their children a better education than they themselves had.
  • People with learning difficulties who, in spite of those apparent limitations now head huge organisations where they continue to think outside the box, and succeed.
  • People with chosen life partners did not support their dreams, who went and found them anyway... taking their partners into a new world of possibility, or leaving them behind in the process.

Psychological flexibility comes from looking beyond the initially obvious limits for other solutions, ideas, pathways that have been hidden or previously missed.

There is always an element of belief in spite of the evidence when it comes to following your dreams. Dreams are not often logical; financially risk-free; easy; given; or supported by those around us. We need to find our own connection to the dream, and then hold on tight, remaining clear within ourselves about the reasons we are not letting it go - no matter what stands in our way.

So what are your dreams? What are the things you dreamed you would do with your life that you have not yet experienced?

Do you believe dreams are still worth having or not? 

How is that working for you?


sarah xx


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